A new mom dives into parenthood. Will our heroine survive?

Monday, February 11, 2008

Being in a new place...


...is hard. Recently Goose has realized that he can protest just about anything he doesn't like - especially the car seat. This has made my already less-mobile life into a just about completely homebound existance. Which I find incredibly hard. During the first few months after Goose was born I made monthly trips to visit my friends and he would just sleep the whole way. Now he starts to scream on the way to CVS, so I can't imagine what he'd be like for two hours on an open highway with nothing to look at.

Before we moved I had a great job, worked with amazing women, and lived near to my closest friends. We also had been going to a great church that was changing the way we thought about God and life in general in such a positive way.

Now I spend most of my time at home with my gorgeous baby - which is FUN - don't get me wrong. But I miss my social network and all the things I had come to love about my old town. So recently I have begun trying to connect with my new town. Which is tough. It is SO different from where we just came from. Our old town was on the coast of North Carolina. It was up and coming, a resort destination, a palm trees everywhere kind of place. Our new town has a Walmart...The downer and the reasons for our move, were a housing market that outpaced our income and a job situation that left Hubster wishing for something drastically different. He found his perfect job in a town two hours away, which just so happened to have more than-affordable housing.

So here we are. To try and connect I've joined a local Moms Club, but most of the outings are geared towards parents of older kids, so there is not all that much I can join in on. Plus, we have not come even CLOSE to finding a church that is even remotely inspiring. Nothing like our old church. But I'm still optimistic that we will find something. I think once we do, I will start volunteering and hopefully that will add some zest to things! And hopefully soon Goose will allow me the little road trips that help me stay connected to the friends I love. :)

6 comments:

Kacie said...

Aw man! I can only imagine how frustrating/stressful that must be.

Stick with it! Keep looking for a church and reaching out to other moms. I can almost guarantee that there's other moms in your town in the same boat.

Kellie said...

Girl, it's hard. It was hard on me when my guy was little and I never moved. Spring will come soon and you can do parks and hiking, etc. Get yourself a baby backpack. I have a cheap one that you can have - and take him everywhere. And once you find a church it'll happen for you. Finding friends is hard. Especially for moms. Maybe try encouraging your husband to bring home some new friends that have wives or girlfriends... Even if it's just to your house because you don't have a babysitter yet... that might increase your people volume a bit. Make sure to ask them about local places you can take your munchkin to... P.S. We're always still here, too.

Debbie J. said...

It'll all be worth it once this "season" passes. I promise. Luv and kisses and hugs!

Pen Pen said...

Moving is very difficult and finding the right church is even harder. It seems that each time we move, just when we find the right church, it's time to leave again! I hope you find your place in your new town soon! It will happen!

About Us... said...

I so understand this. Don't get down on yourself for feeling this way. It's real! I used to wonder what I was doing wrong to not make friends, and now that I've moved to a much more social place, I've realized some people just aren't. And that's annoying!

Samara said...

I just moved too- to a place where we don't know anyone. I also joined 2 moms' groups (one on meetup.com and one on yahoo) and they both seem really welcoming. I've also been taking baby to the library storytimes for infants and have met folks there. Questions about where to find a good pediatrician or dentist or resale shop always get the conversation moving as everyone has advice to share! Best wishes in your new home!